“If your brother or sister sins, go and point out their fault, just between the two of you. If they listen to you, you have won them over.”
Did you say something inappropriate out of frustration? Or perhaps go behind the person’s back and tell other people bad things about them? Or maybe you just held it all inside and let the anger build up until you exploded?
Of course, maybe you did it the way Jesus’ said it should be handled. He said that if someone “sins against us” (does us wrong) that we should go straight to that person and set things straight. (And don’t do it in anger or with the goal of winning; do it with love in your heart and with the goal of having peace between you and the other person.) If doing it 0ne-on-one doesn’t work, we’re supposed to take a friend with us to help us resolve the situation. Only if that doesn’t work are we supposed to involve other people, and even then, it’s all supposed to be done within the church.
I’d honestly like to say that I’ve always resolved my conflicts like that. But what I’ve found is that when I have done it Jesus’ way, things usually turn out for the best. And when I handle it my own way, and speak out of anger and frustration, or bottle it up, the conflict gets worse, and my blood pressure just goes up.
Trust me – life is simply too short to let conflicts get the best of you. Jesus wasn’t just the Messiah – He was also extremely wise. Following Him isn’t just a path to eternal life – it’s a pathway to a better life here on Earth. The next time you have a problem with another person put His method to the test and let the Lord’s wisdom help bring you peace and resolution.
Reflection copyright © 2017 Doug DeBolt.
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